The Mistress' Diary

W/we prefer O/our coffee and tea served certain ways. W/we have preferences for the temperature of O/our beef. And being the kind of Woman I am, I have quite a list of preferences for the submissive minds that I toy with.

My tastes are wide and My cravings are often insatiable. If you’re wondering if W/we may have chemistry as Dominant and submissive, either in play or the longer term, some of these should certainly align with you and your own desires.

I like a sub that communicate efficiently. Nothing shelves My interest in a new face quite like a lack of interest in telling Me who they are and a lack of respect in communicating what they need. You need not be Tolkien or Asimov but My interest in your devotion will stick if you can talk about how you wish to belong and feel.

I like a sub that can effortless mesh their desires with Mine, especially Mine at the forefront. I want you to want to hurt for Me, to sacrifice for Me, to grovel like your life was on the line for Me. Whimper at Me and ask if I’ve had My fill of beating you. Sheepishly look into My eyes and beg Me to take more of your money. Realize the comfort in being on your knees, prostrate to Me in stroking My ego and begging for a release that there isn’t even a promise of you receiving.

I like a sub who isn’t just a loser, but knows how to be a loser properly. A lack of passion and drive is gross. A lack of stability on the outside of the dungeon is repugnant. Subject yourself to My bite and My cruelty, but regain your dimensions when the shackles come off your ankles. Have stability, interests and hobbies, a drive to self improve. After all, how can you hope to belong if you aren’t furthering your station to continue to deserve your place at My feet?

I like a sub who explores their own body and tastes for Me. Gooning and jerking off alone are boring and don’t often much mental stimulation for Me as your guide into the perverted. Fantasize about being in chains powering My empire. Question whether that “lack of pain tolerance” can be toyed with and developed. Submission is not just a lack of control to a Domme, but a push hard out of your comfort zone. I want you to see domination past what you’ve allowed yourself to experience and take the journey with Me to corrupt you further.

I like a sub that worships whether I’m “on” or “off” My element. Find Me as irresistible in light makeup, crop tops and yoga pants as you find Me in black lipstick, latex and garters. Fall in love with My ease of bringing you to the floor and My often menace-like sense of humor.

I like a sub that doesn’t run like a little bitch when they fuck up. They acknowledge that it is impossible to offer flawless submission and servitude during their time with Me, and do what it takes to make up for their mistakes. They know apologies are expected to be expensive and concise, that punishment exists to better their efforts and them as a sub, and accept it. For they know that running the second they’re held accountable, that cowardice for mistakes or lack of care for making them, will rebuild the wall that W/we both spent time breaking down. No ego is more important than making up for things done wrong, and no sub is exempt from responsibility to their Goddess.

I like a sub with a sense of realism they commit to, no matter the moment in time. They don’t offer their hard stops to Me in an attempt to impress Me, but work with Me to get them there one day. They don’t stay distant simply because of My more unattainable facets, but embrace what they are given like the most precious gift. They don’t stray away from the pornographic filth that propels their fantasies, but realize that porn is simply that — a fantasy — and that there are leaps that cannot crest into reality.

And finally: I like a sub that learns to let go completely for Me. They embrace the complete shutdown of their mind and let Me take the wheel. They arch properly to accept a flogging rather than curling away from it. They let their vices have a little power and erase any shame they may harbor even for a few minutes. And they lay their autonomy in My hands, trusting I’ll return it to them once the game is played… or trusting it to be watched carefully while it stays in a lock box out of their desperate reach.

That is how Mistress Alexxxia likes it. Do you have what it takes to please Me?